For many, the moment they enter into a romantic relationship things seem to shift. The sense of ease and calm disappears and they're left with intrusive, negative thoughts and seemingly unrealistic worries. People with anxious attachment styles and those diagnosed...
Sex and Anxiety: Get Out of Your Head in Bed
Sex isn’t the ideal time for rumination but anxiety often shows up uninvited. If you’re thinking about how the sheets are getting dirty, you're surely not thinking about pleasure and having enjoyable sex. How Does Anxiety Impact Sex? Anxiety is an emotion that traps...
Sober Dating: 10 Tips for Healthy Dating in Recovery
Dating in today’s climate can be a difficult venture. Tag on recovery from addiction and the challenges can compound. People in the early stages of addiction recovery may crave the validation and distraction that can be found in dating, but this may not be the best...
How to Say “No” to Sex At Any Time
Saying "no" to sex doesn’t mean never. It might mean, “not right now”, “I’m not there yet”, “I’m tired”, “I don’t think I trust you yet”, and so on. Saying "no" can come with a wave of emotions and unpleasant responses, but there is no reason to keep having unwanted...
Gaslighting Phrases + Tactics Everyone Needs to Know
Ever felt like your reality was being questioned and over time you started to feel, well, crazy? You may have been a victim of gaslighting or recognized one of many gaslighting phrases. The term gaslighting, coined by a 1938 movie, is defined as form of emotional...
What is Polyvagal Theory + How it Helps Your Relationship
The term Polyvagal Theory may sound intimidating, but the concept is actually simple to explain. Understanding polyvagal theory can start by taking a look at the two parts of the nervous system. The two parts of the nervous system...
How Can Polyvagal Theory Help Co-Regulation in Relationships?
Understanding Polyvagal Theory is easier than it sounds. The nervous system is your friend, especially if you can learn to understand and modify its course. There are two parts, the central nervous (brain and spinal cord), and peripheral nervous (everything else)...
Living Apart Together, You and Me?
Some couples, even married couples, choose to live apart together, and have bucked the trend of of living under one roof and share a bed. Why? Well, history lent itself to cohabitation due to societal norms of marriage and gendered roles. Today, a growing population...