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What is Intimacy? | Types & Context

In considering how to define intimacy, it is important to think about it on two axes. First, intimacy exists in relationships and can exist across several key dimensions: emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual. What is intimacy? Simple. Our definition: To see and allow oneself to be fully seen, authentically.

Download this grid, and perhaps take a explore what intimacy means to you, with yourself, your family, friends, and in romantic relationships, across the emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual planes.

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What does Anger Mean? | Anatomy of Anger

Understanding what anger means can be a tricky. Anger gets a bad rap, but it is a beneficial emotion when expressed effectively. Anger is a secondary emotion, and is an activating and protective emotion, galvanizing us into action when we feel disempowered by other, less comfortable feelings.

Use this worksheet to think through the events that lead to you uncomfortable feelings, like, shame, fear, helplessness, etc., and explore all the feelings on the anger continuum that take form as a secondary emotions. Think about how you express your feelings; these are behaviors and are what are ultimately constructive or destructive to us in the long run. Examining real or potential consequences of anger can help you slow down your angry outbursts, and get your anger under control.

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What are the Effects & Impacts of Trauma

The effects of trauma on the brain and the effects of trauma on the body can leave a lasting toll. Trauma can affect all areas of someone’s life, including how they see themselves and construct their identity, their relationships to spirituality, sexuality and earning potential.

Use this worksheet to examine all of the ways the effects of childhood trauma, the effects of intergenerational trauma as well as other types of trauma have left an impact on you. Trauma survivors are incredibly resilient, and being able to recognize the effect of trauma in your life, gives you options on how to move forward.

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Recommended Programs

It can be difficult to know what programs out there are worth investing in, so here are a few programs we love at Modern Intimacy.

Courtney V. Core & Pelvic Floor Exercise Program

Pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and Poosh contributor Courtney V developed her online Core & Pelvic Floor Program after fixing her own pelvic floor issues and those of so many others. Living a life with bladder or bowel issues (such as peeing when you sneeze or jump), sexual dysfunction or dissatisfaction, low back and hip pain, organ prolapse, and more can alter the way you live your life. Many feel hopeless, shameful, and embarrassed. This powerful program holds the key to transform your life and reduce or eliminate the physical, mental, and emotional issues that surround these all too common issues.  

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Dr. Kate’s Insights

Courtney V. is a champion for pelvic floor health and physical fitness. A certified Personal Trainer, Courtney is skilled at helping people optimize their fitness goals and intimate health needs. Courtney V. is passionate about women’s sexual health and wellness, and her programs for pelvic floor training are a gift for any woman looking to reduce incontinence, sexual dysfunction, and lean into more pleasurable, embodied sex.

Mentally Fit

Mentally Fit is a worldwide community that helps people get access to support and resources for improving mental health.

Created by people who truly understand what people with mental health challenges go through, because they have lived through it themselves.

Backed by leading mental health professionals and advocates, with Advisory Board members including: Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Dr. Mark Goulston, M.D., Dr. Carly Manly, Dr. Sherrie Campbell, and Tony Coelho (fmr US House of Representatives).

Dr. Kate’s Insights

Mentally Fit is an organization developed by compassionate people, who understand the need for portable tips to manage mental health symptoms. Designed for therapists and non-therapists alike, Mentally Fit provides free and low-cost online support and resources for anyone who wants more mental health tools at their fingertips. Dr. Balestrieri has served on the Board of Directors for Mentally Fit since 2019, and agreed to do so because of the shared vision between Mentally Fit and Modern Intimacy, to make mental health care more accessible to everyone.

Modern Intimacy Staff Favorites

Check out Modern Intimacy staff’s highly recommended books and accessories for mental health, trauma, sex and relationships here.
We love these products, and hope you will too.

Amazon Favorites

Awesome Mental Health Books

Books for Childhood Trauma

Grounding & Resourcing Accessories

Books About Betrayal

Books About Men's Sexuality

Relationship Books

Toys for Intimacy

Sex Addiction & Compulsivity

Abusive Relationships

Books About Women's Sexuality


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