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The Modern Intimacy Mindset: Proven Therapy Techniques For Real Results In Sex Therapy, Relationship Counseling, Porn Addiction Recovery, And More

About Modern Intimacy

Intimacy for everyone, in a modern world. At Modern Intimacy, we offer sex therapy and other therapy techniques for individuals and couples in Los Angeles, Miami, NYC, Chicago, and many other locations to help you live a fulfilled and healthy life.


Mental health, relational health, and sexual health are inextricably intertwined in the gestalt of the
human experience.

What is the Modern Intimacy Mindset?

Welcome to Modern Intimacy. If you’re reading this, it means you are curious about something. Whether your curiosity is about yourself, your relationships, new dimensions of sexuality, old hurts, or future joys. We’re here with an inclusive and safe space, to deepen the conversation about the intersection of mental health, relationships, and human sexuality, free of judgment, without stigma, and with an intentional fostering of empowerment and enrichment.

Talking about sex and getting help do not have to be difficult. Modern Intimacy is committed to creating a safe space for people to get access to expert driven information, professional resources and an inclusive community in which to discuss the intersection of mental health, relationships and sexuality, in an ever-changing, contemporary landscape.


Free 30-Minute Consultation

Teletherapy Service Available

Judgement-Free Counseling

Everyone has the right to empowered, healthy, and thriving relationships. That includes you.

mental health | relationships | sexuality | healing + recovery

What makes Modern Intimacy sex therapy different from other practices?

The connection between mental health, relationships, and sexuality is interconnected. Within an ever-changing cultural landscape, authentic intimacy remains a primary need. The way people relate to each other is evolving fast, but authentic connection remains a primary need for everyone.

Our Founder, Dr. Kate Balestrieri, and many staff belong to the American Association of Sexuality, Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and combine holistic mental health services, with education, inclusivity, sex positivity and philanthropy, in an effort to build community and ensure people stay connected in a meaningful way, in a modern world. At Modern Intimacy, we are committed to a set of strong values.


Everyone has a right to be seen, represented, and valued. We work hard to ensure our content and resources are for everyone, regardless of race, ethnicity, religious views, political position, gender, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, bodily shape or ability, or aesthetic choices. Humans are humans, and there is room for us all, without shame, with respect, and with the knowledge that there is always more to learn. Diversity is essential, and we’re here for it.

Expert-Driven Content

That old saying about how it takes a village is so true. Navigating the information available can be daunting, so Modern Intimacy works with vetted experts from all different disciplines and industries, providing information and resources about the topics that matter to you. We source information from leading psychologists, sex therapists, clinical social workers, licensed marriage and family therapists, psychiatrists, physicians, attorneys, public health resources, and more.

Healthy + Holistic Sex Therapy

Every person has a relationship to sexuality; even if they are abstinent. Modern Intimacy respects the unique sexual template of every human, and fosters a shame-free space to address questions, preferences, sexual issues or struggles and pleasures for each person. Our mission is to help people live in an empowered, embodied, and erotic manner, and encourage each person to define that for themselves. Our holistic therapy techniques help ensure you get the help you need.


People are busier than ever, and do not always have the time or resources to commit to therapy. We get it. So we’ve created a platform that offers many different kinds of resources: some low-cost or free, some short-term, some online and some in-person. Online workshops, e-books, trusted articles and videos, and therapy (online and in person) give you the option of choosing a way to heal that fits with your needs, geography, and budget.

Holistic Mental Health Services + Therapy Techniques

It is well understood that mental health is connected to every other aspect of life. At Modern Intimacy, we understand that a holistic and integrated approach is necessary to help people thrive. The quality of your relationships, professional success, physical health, spirituality and sex life, are all related to mental health. Knowing this, we work with you to help you achieve, restore, and maintain balance in your life, so you can live a meaningful, authentic, and empowered life.

I’ve tried therapy before and I still need help. How are the Modern Intimacy therapy techniques different?

Sometimes, it can be difficult to find the right help and sometimes, even with the right help, it can seem like an intangible goal. Often, when you see progress in one area of life, it becomes clear that there are other concerns you would like to address. Try not to get discouraged.
At Modern Intimacy, we employ a variety of holistic therapy techniques that are geared to help you and your unique needs. Our clinicians are trained and certified in a diverse set of specialized skills, and we tailor each treatment approach to help you feel comfortable and address your specific needs.

How do I know if I need sex therapy? Can you help me figure out if I should see a therapist?

Sex therapy is a good place to start if you are looking to address any concerns related to your sexuality or sexual relationship. Your relationship to sex is tantamount to every other domain of your life. At Modern Intimacy, we are sex positive therapists, meaning we will not shame you and we will only suggest sex therapy if you have identified that there is something related to sex in your life that no longer works for you. A Certified Sex Therapist can help you if you are looking to address:

  • A history of sexual trauma,
  • Sexual dysfunction or sexual problems,
  • The quality of your sex life, if you are sexually active,
  • Your sexuality, sexual orientation, or gender identity,
  • Any type of sexual behavior that has negative consequences in your life,
  • Mismatched libidos between you and your partner,
  • Concerns about sexual functioning,
  • Different sexual fantasies and desires within your relationship,
  • Pain during sex, Dyspareunia, Vaginismus, etc.,
  • Erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation (early ejaculation), delayed ejaculation,
  • An inability to orgasm, alone or with a partner,
  • Shame about sex or your sexuality,
  • Oppression related to sex or your sexuality,
  • A desire to try an open relationship, polyamory, BDSM or other kink,
  • Compulsivity related to sex (sex addiction), love (love addiction), or porn (porn addiction), or hypersexuality that has caused a problem in your life,
  • Infidelity and betrayal trauma,
  • Sexual anorexia or avoidance,
  • Performance anxiety.

How long will I be in therapy? Is there a timeline for the Modern Intimacy mindset?

Everyone is different, so it is difficult to say how long you can expect to be in any form of therapy. Most of our clients report feeling better and seeing changes within six to eight therapy sessions. We do not want people to become dependent on therapy, so we work with you to help you achieve your goals in a time frame that allows for sustainability. Your treatment plan is a collaboration between you and your therapist.

I know I need help. How do I start?

Getting started is easy. Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with a member of our team, so we can get to know you and your goals, and answer any questions you may have about the process, our team of clinicians, our therapy techniques, our online courses, or other services that may benefit you.