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Sex Doesn’t Have to Suffer in Long Term Relationships, with “Come As You Are” author Emily Nagoski

Feb 16, 2024


What kind of sex is worth wanting? Does your sex life inevitably suffer in longterm relationships? On this week’s episode, sex educator, researcher, and renowned author of “Come As You Are” Emily Nagoski joins Dr. Kate to answer these questions. Together, they discuss the genesis of Emily’s latest book “Come Together”, and the reality of how our sex lives change in long term partnerships.


This episode tackles topics including the popular rhetoric we hear about how sex works in long term relationships, including the conversations around “keeping the spark alive.” We’ll also discuss the importance of pleasure, authenticity, and vulnerability when it comes to desire in long term partnerships. We’ll also get into why it is so important to co-create an erotic context with a partner and why long term partners get stuck in the cycle of having the same type of sex over and over. We invite you to ask yourself, what kind of sex is WORTH having? We get into all this and so much more on this week’s episode.


Emily Nagoski is the New York Times bestselling, award-winning author of Come as You Are and co-author, with her sister, Amelia, of Burnout. She combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist!



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