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Why Do Some People Like Small Penis Humiliation?


Two partners engage in small penis humiliation play.

Humiliation fetishes are more common than people realize. In one Harvard study, 46% of respondents had engaged in some type of BDSM activity, with humiliation and power being among the most popular fetishes. Small penis humiliation (SPH) might be something you’ve heard about recently, fantasized about, or something a sex partner has expressed they want you to do for them. Or you may have tried it already but don’t understand why it’s so sexually satisfying.

Small penis humiliation has been gaining attention, as the popularity of online sex work has made it more accessible for people to explore their kinks more readily. Are you wondering if SPH is healthy and safe (it is!), or do you want to know the mechanics behind this particular sexual fantasy? Read on for to learn more about small penis humiliation.

What is a Humiliation Sexual Fetish?

Erotic humiliation is a form of BDSM, where sexual gratification is achieved through domination and submission dynamics.

Like any other sexual practice, safer sex through consent and communication is key. Once boundaries are established, a humiliation fetish can be satisfied through verbal and/or physical roleplay.

This sexual fetish achieves gratification from the emotion behind the act, so it encompasses a wide range of sexual practices. It can be incorporated with other fetishes, kinks, or sexual preferences.

For example, licking a sexual partner’s foot as a form of humiliation can be sexual gratifying with regard to humiliation, submissiveness, and/or foot play for you and your partner(s).

Fetishes and Mental Health

Although frequently stigmatized, fetishes in general and humiliation fetishes specifically are NOT a sign of mental health issues, and can be a very healthy form of sexual expression.

In fact, repressing a sexual fantasy is generally more harmful. It’s better for your mental health to turn it into a healthy and consensual sexual practice.

Research of those who practice BDSM has shown they tend to have good psychological health, and poor mental health isn’t the driver for sexual preferences that include BDSM. Many participants even reported that exploring their sexual fantasies led to better mental health and relationship outcomes.

Small Penis Humiliation and Sexual Gratification

Sexual gratification from humiliation can come from a complex mix of many factors, depending on the individual. People may experience sexual pleasure via SPH through:

  • Giving control to their humiliator
  • Taking control over an insecurity
  • Eliminating distractions to mental focus
  • Working through sexual inhibitions
  • Arousal through trust and vulnerability
  • Mental, emotional, and physical release after stress
  • A feeling of mental and/or social rewards
  • Knowing they are still loved even if humiliated

SPH is a completely healthy form of sexual play, as long as respect and boundaries are maintained. It may sound like an oxymoron to say respect is required for any humiliation kink, but respect for the parameters of the kink, safe word and limits established and after care for all involved are what make humiliation kink so exciting. It creates a scene where shame can be played with, and therefore the person being humiliated has control over how far it goes. This allows people to implicitly relax into the feeling of shame, instead of having it foisted upon them with boundary-less or intrusive behavior.

Who is into Small Penis Humiliation?

The average penis size is actually around 5 inches (12.7cm). Unrealistic standards normalized through mainstream porn videos make many people with penises feel their perfectly normal penis size is inadequate.

In patriarchal societies, penis size and sexual prowess are tied to masculine self-worth and self-identity. This can lead people with penises with a humiliation fetish to find gratification when a partner degrades their penis size, giving them form of control over the humiliation experienced.

The shaming stigma surrounding small penis size is an unhealthy outset of toxic masculinity. It can cause psychological distress. Conversely, SPH allows men to take back control over this patriarchal programming. They can turn it into an emotionally satisfying sexual practice instead.

Although men with a self proclaimed tiny penis or micro penis may have this sexual fantasy, small penises are not necessary to have a small penis humiliation (sometimes referred to as tiny dick humiliation, small cock humiliation or small dick humiliation) sexual fetish. People can get sexual pleasure from small penis humiliation, regardless of penis size.

Achieving the Sex Life You Desire Using Healthy and Safe Strategies

You don’t need to repress any sexual fantasy or sexual fetish. Exploring small penis humiliation in the bedroom can help you and your partner(s) achieve intimacy and closeness.

Communication is the key to getting started in your exploration. Working with a sex therapist can help, if you feel stuck or unsure of how to begin exploring your sexuality in a healthy way.

Modern Intimacy is a group therapy practice, founded by renowned Psychologist and Sex Therapist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. This inclusive blog is designed to provide a wealth of information and resources for mental health, relationships, and sexuality. Subscribe today to get the latest information from our expert contributors from all around the world.


Author Bio

Dr. Kate Balestrieri is a Licensed Psychologist (CA, FL, IL + NY), Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and PACT III trained Couples Therapist. She is the Founder of Modern Intimacy. Follow her on TikTok and IG @drkatebalestrieri and the Modern Intimacy team on IG @themodernintimacy.



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1 Comment

  1. Acrow

    I enjoy small penis humiliation even tho my penis is not small. Sexuality is way bigger than traditional sex acts. Sexual pleasure and freedom is closely connected. So anything that at some level is liberating, can also be arousing. In cases of small penis humiliation, female domination and cuckolding (these three often play together) the liberation comes from defying the patriarchal mindset that is imposed on men’s mind. So fetishes and fantasies like this allow men like me to experience a kind of freedom that we can’t experience otherwise. I am more than my masculinity, I don’t like others’ telling me how to be, and I don’t measure my worth according to what society might think about me. Society may categorize men who blindly obey and follow social norms as ‘alpha’ while categorizing men who do whatever the f they want as ‘beta’. So it’s the last reference to take seriously.


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