Is it ever acceptable to cheat? What do fidelity agreements look like in partnership? On this episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Kate is joined by Dan Savage to talk about sex, fidelity, monogamy, non-monogamy and the importance of creating the type of relationship and family YOU want, not one dictated by society.
Together, they unpack: • The dimensionality of fidelity and loyalty • Inviting sustained and controlled chaos into your relationship • The power of practice in group and community settings • The Karmic Rule of Kink and so much more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, media pundit, author, journalist, and LGBT community activist. Be sure to check out his column, Savage Love, and his podcast, Savage Lovecast. A special thank you to the sponsors for this episode, BEDUCATED and MAYER LABS! Head to BEDUCATED’s website and use code “drKate” for 40% off a yearly pass.
TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – 06:58 The genesis of Savage Love and how it has shaped Dan’s own relationship with sexuality as a gay man
06:59 – 08:30 Monogamy and the choice to be non-monogamous
08:31 – 11:30 Being truthful about desires and needs
11:31 – 15:37 Monogamy as compulsive vs. as a choice
15:38 – 19:23 Inviting sustained and controlled chaos into your relationship
19:24 – 22:17 Dan reflecting on people who write in expressing the need to have their desires met
22:18 – 27:50 The dimensionality of fidelity and loyalty
27:51 – 28:41 DADT (Don’t Ask Don’t Tell) When it comes to fidelity
28:42 – 33:40 Sex and politics
33:41 – 37:20 Dan’s experience during the AIDs crisis
37:21 – 38:20 The strength that exists in pleasure after doing the work
38:21 – 41:47 The power of practice in group and community settings
41:48 – 48:30 The Karmic Rule of Kink
48:31 – 50:25 Outro and where to connect with Dan
