The holidays are all about giving thoughtful gifts to those you love, but what about yourself? You deserve a thoughtful gift as much as everyone else in your life! Your love and generosity for yourself is just as important to nourish as it is with your loved ones. 

It can be hard for many to treat themselves, especially if you are used to putting others first. We know the holidays can come with a high price tag and you may already be overwhelmed by purchasing everyone else’s gifts. If you can manage it this year, do your best to give yourself something special. Big or small, you deserve it. 

The Modern Intimacy team has put together a gift guide of some of our favorite gift ideas for treating yourself. If you need some inspiration, feel free to browse the list below and pick up something special for yourself if you see an item that catches your eye. At every price point and multiple different types of gifts, we hope you find something that resonates with you and brings you joy. 

Modern Intimacy is not affiliated with nor do we make any commission from purchases of these products. 

Modern Intimacy Recommends: Gifts for Yourself

Shower Steamers

“Shower steamers create a spa-like experience in your shower with stress relieving essential oils. With a shower steamer you can experience the aromatherapy benefits of essential oils and enjoy a pleasant fragrance to enhance your shower routine and make you feel good.” – Imani Reynolds, AMFT

Solo Sex: A Workbook for Becoming Your Best Lover

“This workbook is filled with solo sex information, worksheets, and practices to engage in and build a deeper connection between yourself and your pleasure. This book is the perfect guide for someone looking to prioritize and increase their pleasure.” – Imani Reynolds, AMFT

KOA + ROY Legacy Massage Cube

“This message cube is made with natural organic ingredients designed to help soothe sore and swollen muscles. It’s great to ease tension in the body and leave a satin feel on the skin.”–  Brooke Brownlee, APCC

Salty Betch Bath Salts

“Treat your body to relaxation and presence with Himalayan Pink Rock Salt and a neroli essential oil blend with sustainable glitter.” –  Rachel Overvoll, Somatic Sex Coach 

Box of Emotions

“A box of 80 cards with different emotions and a short essay on each card. The purpose is to expand emotional vocabulary, help make sense of moods and increase self-awareness.”–  Hunter English, Clinical Extern 

The Story of My Life Activity Journal 

“This guided journal helps you take a deep dive into your life and share the story of you. I love how it helped me remember many of the positive moments that have helped shape my life that I may not have remembered otherwise.”–  Jessie Ripes, Digital Media Coordinator at Modern Intimacy

Come as You Are Workbook by Emily Nagoski  

“We all deserve a pleasurable sex life and it can be challenging to discover where to start. I think this workbook is a fun and explorative guide to understanding your unique relationship with sex and pleasure and learn how you can have the type of sex that you want. Also, if you haven’t read Emily’s book Come As You Are, it’s a great read!”–  Kayla Tricaso, Office Manager & Patient Intake Specialist at Modern Intimacy 

Face Mask Collection 

“I love a good face mask collection because you have so many options to choose from when it comes to the various scents. This package has masks for brightening, moisturizing, redness reduction, and more. Putting on a face mask and winding down with a good book or movie is self-care to me.” –  Kayla Tricaso, Office Manager & Patient Intake Specialist at Modern Intimacy

5 Reasons You Should Get Yourself a Gift this Holiday Season

Because you deserve a reward 

The past couple of years have been rough at times for so many people. Surviving a pandemic and everything that comes with that is a great reason to treat yourself as a token of appreciation to yourself for getting through everything you did the past few years. 

Because you deserve to take care of yourself

There are many ways to take care of yourself and what it means to take care of yourself can look different for everyone. If it feels like an act of self-care and kindness towards yourself, get yourself something nice that you’ve really been wanting. Whether it’s a pair of shoes, a trip to the spa or salon, new bedding – whatever it is, get yourself that thing that will light you up inside. Taking care of yourself is a great way to build confidence, self esteem and self love. 

Because you do so much for other people in your life

For so many, it’s hard to take care of yourself if you are very busy or prioritize taking care of others. You might be a parent and have one or multiple kids to attend to. You might be in a helping profession where a lot of focus and energy goes into attuning to and assisting others. You might also just be someone who just struggles to put yourself first. If that’s the case, you might set a personal goal for yourself to include yourself on your holiday shopping list this year. You deserve a special treat as much as the people in your life who you show up for and take care of. 

Because you deserve a loving relationship with yourself 

Treating yourself to gifts here and there can be a form of self-love. It might not feel like that for everyone, but it doesn’t hurt to treat yourself when you can and need it. Gifts are one way people tend to show appreciation and love for each other – that act of kindness can also apply to yourself. Foster the relationship you have with yourself by getting yourself something that feels meaningful, whatever that means to you. 

Because you just deserve it. Period.  

You don’t necessarily need a reason to buy yourself a gift this holiday season, or ever. The holidays can be challenging and come with so much stress and anxiety. That alone and all you are doing to show up for yourself and others during the holidays is enough of a reason to celebrate yourself, your accomplishments, your strengths, your growth, and you as the deserving person you are. 

Happy Holidays From Modern Intimacy

The team at Modern Intimacy wishes you and your loved ones a happy, connective, and meaningful holiday, in whatever way you chose to celebrate!