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Not the Threesome You Wanted: Managing Thirds
Being in a committed relationship is just that, a commitment, and how you rise or fall to your partner's expectations is an endless journey. So, how are you managing thirds in your relationship? Coined by Stan Tatkin, the term thirds stand for anything that may...
How To Deal With Mismatched Libidos
Most couples go through normal ebbs and flows in their relationship, and can, at times, find themselves on a stuck on different sexual pages. Couples endure mismatched libidos whenever one partner has a higher sex drive, or libido, than the other. Every person...
The Effect of Enmeshment Trauma in Families
What is enmeshment? It’s generally considered a good thing when a family is close. However, it is possible for family relationships to be too close, or enmeshed. When that happens, the way the family operates can become problematic and impede on each family member's...
Is Porn Bad? | A Look at the Pros + Cons
Is porn bad? It is easy to find many opinions and beliefs about whether it’s good or bad for you. The truth is, online pornography, and other forms of sexually explicit content are neither good nor bad. Porn can be a way for a person to explore their turn ons and...
How Can Polyvagal Theory Help Co-Regulation in Relationships?
Understanding Polyvagal Theory is easier than it sounds. The nervous system is your friend, especially if you can learn to understand and modify its course. There are two parts, the central nervous (brain and spinal cord), and peripheral nervous (everything else)...
What is Grooming? | The Long Game Strategy of Exploitation
What is grooming? It is a strategy used by predators and abusive people to build trust and emotional connection with someone they are attempting to victimize. It’s an insidious style of manipulation used to abuse a child, young person, or a vulnerable adults, to build...
Is it Domestic Violence? The Signs of Abuse and What Survivors Can Do
Domestic abuse, also known as Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), is an incredibly nuanced topic and one that unfortunately tends to come with stigma and misunderstanding. The unfortunate reality is that domestic violence does not discriminate. Abusive and toxic...
Should I Stay or Should I go? 9 Ways to Know
“Darlin you got to let me know……. should I stay or should I go?” ~ The Clash, 1981 Although your life might not be as dramatic as The Clash’s love song, the decision about continuing or discontinuing a dating relationship can be a doozy. Current literature...
Chronic Loneliness & Touch Deprivation | The Consequences
A topic fresh in people's mind, since the pandemic, is the impact of touch deprivation and chronic loneliness. Until recently, persistent social isolation was not a common experience shared amongst most of the population. Due to the current health pandemic around...
ASMR – The New Way to Relax
What is ASMR? 1 sheep, 2 sheep, 3 sheep………..475 sheep. Counting sheep not cutting it for you? How about a video of someone tapping a plate. Curious? Read on. A phenomenon growing in popularity over the last ten years might be just the thing to try. ...
The NoFAP Movement | What is it?
Understanding the NoFAP Movement and Masturbation Abstinence Asked to explain the NoFAP movement, most people draw a blank. However, it is a quickly growing online community, geared toward providing support for those who wish to change their relationship to...
Victim of Revenge Porn? Here’s What to Do
Trigger warning: This article discusses Image Based Sexual Abuse, known as revenge porn, and provides some examples that may evoke discomfort to readers. What is Revenge Porn? Revenge porn, clinically known as Image-based sexual abuse (IBSA), is no joke. Defined as...
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