How To Deal With Mismatched Libidos
Most couples go through normal ebbs and flows in their relationship, and can, at times, find themselves on a stuck on different sexual pages. Couples endure mismatched libidos whenever one partner has a higher sex drive, or libido, than the other. Every person...
The Effect of Enmeshment Trauma in Families
What is enmeshment? It’s generally considered a good thing when a family is close. However, it is possible for family relationships to be too close, or enmeshed. When that happens, the way the family operates can become problematic and impede on each family member's...
Is Porn Bad? | A Look at the Pros + Cons
Is porn bad? It is easy to find many opinions and beliefs about whether it’s good or bad for you. The truth is, online pornography, and other forms of sexually explicit content are neither good nor bad. Porn can be a way for a person to explore their turn ons and...
How Can Polyvagal Theory Help Co-Regulation in Relationships?
Understanding Polyvagal Theory is easier than it sounds. The nervous system is your friend, especially if you can learn to understand and modify its course. There are two parts, the central nervous (brain and spinal cord), and peripheral nervous (everything else)...
What is Grooming? | The Long Game Strategy of Exploitation
What is grooming? It is a strategy used by predators and abusive people to build trust and emotional connection with someone they are attempting to victimize. It’s an insidious style of manipulation used to abuse a child, young person, or a vulnerable adults, to build...
Victim of Revenge Porn? Here’s What to Do
Trigger warning: This article discusses Image Based Sexual Abuse, known as revenge porn, and provides some examples that may evoke discomfort to readers. What is Revenge Porn? Revenge porn, clinically known as Image-based sexual abuse (IBSA), is no joke. Defined as...
Couples’ Therapy + Relationships | Using the PACT Model
Couples' Therapy + Relationships | Using the PACT Model In this video, Dr. Kate Balestrieri sits down with Dr. Hans Jorg Stahlschmidt to discuss the PACT model for couples therapy and relationships. YouTube: SUBSCRIBE TODAY The...
How to Spot Jealousy in Relationships + How to Deal with It
Jealousy is an instinctual response. It is a feeling that comes from a sense of survival tactics in evolutionary terms. Jealousy’s purpose is to avoid betrayal, obtain a sense of control, and seek reassurance after a real or perceived threat. Jealousy is an emotional...
Happy National Orgasm Day!
** Sound NSFW!*** Generally celebrated in the US, UK, Canada and Australia, National Orgasm Day is July 31st, 2020. Modern Intimacy got the celebration started with this cheeky video filled with facts about the Big O! Did you even...
What is Betrayal Trauma? Learn How to Heal
Betrayal trauma is not often discussed, but anyone who has experienced betrayal can attest to its abject devastation. Trauma is often discussed in the context of significant disturbing events such as sexual assault, near death experiences, combat, natural disasters,...
Surviving the AIDS Epidemic: Resilience + Guilt
Being the sole survivor of a plague made me feel like the lone wolf for much of my life. You see, I am an HIV survivor and for some reason I never acquired HIV while all my friends did. That numbered over 100 and I lost them all. People seem to tell me that I am so...
Covert Sexual Trauma: When there is no history of sexual abuse, but it feels like there was.
Covert sexual trauma is an insidious experience, and not one of the types of abuse often discussed. There are various ways an individual can experience sexual trauma. Some of the most common ways are through experiencing unwanted sexual touching, groping, and...