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Get It On: 5 Tips for an Amazing Sex Life


A couple plans for amazing sex.

An amazing sex life isn’t simply a matter of luck. It requires some thoughtful maintenance and measures to keep it hot and satisfying for you and your partner. Although some people subscribe to the adage that sex is like pizza; even low-quality pizza is pretty good. Once you’ve tasted the good stuff, why lower your standards? Here, we’ll explore a few tried-and-true ways to enjoy an amazing sex life.

Five Tips to Cultivate Amazing Sex

Create the Mood

A great sexual experience isn’t just physical; it’s got a strong psychological component too. You can enhance your appetite for sex with sensual ambience. Dim lights, candles, sumptuous fabrics, and an enticing fragrance will help you create the mood for good sex. While some couples don’t have a problem with sex on a hard kitchen floor next to the dog’s water bowl, others may find that a comfortable bed and setting set the stage for a more luxurious sensual experience.


Give Directions

For a satisfying sex life, be willing to give directions as to where and how you like to be touched. Your partner isn’t a mind reader. They may be focused on an area of your body that doesn’t particularly enthrall you. You might be just shy of perfecting a technique that makes your partner’s head just about explode–in a good way. Tell your lover what you like or happen to be in the mood for and encourage them to communicate their idea of pleasure with you too.


Make Time for Sex

For some, a ten-minute sexual encounter has all the makings of a great day. For most women, ten minutes of foreplay isn’t often enough to rev the motor for half-hearted sex. While fast sex can be satisfying for both partners sometimes, it doesn’t replace the need for a long, pleasure-filled intimate experience. Amazing sex requires some time to prime the body for intercourse. If you’re struggling to experience an orgasm, be sure to spend ample time on foreplay and see if that helps.



Everyone has a different comfort level when it comes to sexual experimentation. However, if you’re looking to add some adventure to the bedroom or rejuvenate a stale sex life, try playing with toys during sex to see what may feel good. Some couples rely on sex toys to improve their sexual experience. You might try something as simple as a blindfold. Many couples add oral sex or anal sex to the mix or try different positions. Talk to your partner about trying something new to add a little extra spice to your next encounter.


Get Help

If you and your partner are experiencing a physical issue, have it checked out. It’s not uncommon for people to experience some sort of issue like trouble maintaining an erection or vaginal dryness. Many issues can be easily resolved–and those that can’t should be examined by your healthcare provider in any case. Sometimes amazing sex can be facilitated with the help of a sex therapist, too. If you and your partner are feeling disconnected, intimacy can suffer. Couples counseling can help you and your partner rekindle romance and improve your sex life.


Amazing Sex is Attainable

Keep these tips in mind so you can enjoy the great sex life you deserve. If you’re struggling with any aspect of your relationship, including your sex life, you might benefit from help from Modern Intimacy and its counseling solutions for individuals and couples. Schedule a consultation now to learn more about how a trained sex therapist can help you and your partner reconnect for amazing sex.

Modern Intimacy is a group therapy practice, founded by renowned Psychologist and Sex Therapist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. This inclusive blog is designed to provide a wealth of information and resources for mental health, relationships, and sexuality. Subscribe today to get the latest information from our expert contributors from all around the world.


Author Bio

Dr. Kate Balestrieri is a Licensed Psychologist (CA, FL, IL + NY), Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and PACT III trained Couples Therapist. She is the Founder of Modern Intimacy. Follow her on TikTok and IG @drkatebalestrieri and the Modern Intimacy team on IG @themodernintimacy.



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