As a therapist specializing in sexual health, I work with a diverse array of clients, each bringing their own unique concerns to our sessions. No two days are the same, and each individual presents a different perspective. Over time, however, I've learned to recognize...
How to Stop People Pleasing
People pleasing behaviors often stem from a deep-rooted desire for validation, acceptance, and connection. Many people pleasers, at some point, have found themselves prioritizing others' needs over their own, saying “yes” when they meant “no,” or feeling uneasy with...
Why Partnered Sex Is Not a Replacement for Solo Sex
Sexuality is a beautiful and deeply personal aspect of our lives. Even though partnered sex typically takes center stage when we talk about intimacy, it's important to remember that solo sex (or masturbation) has its own vital role in having a healthy relationship...
Desire & Disability: Understanding Sex and Disability
There is a common and damaging belief that individuals who live with disabilities do not or cannot experience sexual pleasure, desire, sexual functioning, intimacy, or build healthy sexual relationships in the same ways as their able-bodied peers. These beliefs are...
Understanding Folie à Deux and Protecting Your Relationship
In a healthy relationship, both partners maintain their individual perspectives while sharing common goals and values. Folie à deux erodes this individuality, leading to a loss of personal reality. This can cause significant emotional and psychological harm as one...
Nervous System Regulation For Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) can be a challenging condition, as it impacts not just physical health but also mental well-being and one’s sense of self. It is not limited to a physical experience of “just losing” an erection. The experience of ED can cause you to...
Consensually Nonmonogamous: Boundaries and Agreements
Rules, agreements, and boundaries — concepts that we have heard but do we truly understand what they are? Most fall into dating scripts that do not include intentionality. This is oftentimes due to living in a society that is based on compulsive monogamous...
How To Talk About Sexual Boundaries While Dating
Dating can feel overwhelming. During this period you are getting to know this person, asking questions, exploring similarities, and maybe even asking yourself whether you can see this individual fitting into your life long term. The goal of dating can differ...
Spotting Breadcrumbing to Avoid Dating Disappointment
Ah, the joys of modern dating! Being intentional in your dating journey is clear way to work smarter and not harder as you navigate new connections. And it can certainly be a balancing act! It takes weighing the amount of time that you pour into online dating versus...