As a therapist, I work closely with individuals and partners navigating the complexities of their intimate relationships. Among the myriad challenges they face, one recurring issue is sexual entitlement - the belief held by one partner that they have an inherent right...
Technology & Relationships: Connection or Distraction?
In today's rapidly evolving world, the pervasive influence of technology has seamlessly woven itself into the fabric of our lives, profoundly altering the dynamics of how we connect, communicate, and nurture our relationships. From romantic partners separated by...
How to Initiate Sex with Your Partner
Initiating sex can feel tricky for many couples. It can be difficult to know the right time, place, and best way to approach your partner to initiate sex, especially if you’re unsure of your partner’s desires or boundaries. This can be particularly challenging for...
Are There Any Dangers of EMDR Therapy?
Our brains can sometimes naturally recover from traumatic memories and events without therapeutic intervention. However, if the traumatic memories are not processed and stored properly, these experiences can continue to cause distress in the present moment and for a...
What Does Dissociation Feel Like & How to Cope?
Dissociation is a mental process that creates a lack of connection in a person’s thoughts, memory, and sense of identity. Dissociation is a natural and protective trauma response when the full recollection of the traumatic event can be too excruciating for the system,...
How to Reparent Yourself Through Inner Child Work
As children, we need consistency, security, safety, and healthy modeling of emotions to make sense of our internal experiences and emotional needs. Sadly, not all of us get to have those essential needs met and as a result, we start to be out of touch with our own...
How Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Helps Relationships
Relationship researcher and developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Sue Johnson, boils trust down to this question; “Are you there for me?” Many people have an innate need for emotional connection and secure emotional bonds. Yet many people do not get...
How to Shrink Your Inner Critic
Many people have an inner critic. The loud and relentless narrator in the back of our heads that is constantly providing evidence for our shortcomings. Maybe it's what a "crappy job" you did in that interview or why you still haven't lost the "pandemic pounds." ...
How to Heal from Toxic Shame in Your Relationships
Shame is an insidious sensation of feeling flawed and inadequate. Shame based beliefs constantly whisper in our ears “you are not enough, therefore, you are unworthy of love and connection.” Toxic shame can negatively impact many aspects of our lives, including our...