As children, we need consistency, security, safety, and healthy modeling of emotions to make sense of our internal experiences and emotional needs. Sadly, not all of us get to have those essential needs met and as a result, we start to be out of touch with our own...
Relationship researcher and developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Sue Johnson, boils trust down to this question; “Are you there for me?” Many people have an innate need for emotional connection and secure emotional bonds. Yet many people do not get...
Many people have an inner critic. The loud and relentless narrator in the back of our heads that is constantly providing evidence for our shortcomings. Maybe it's what a "crappy job" you did in that interview or why you still haven't lost the "pandemic pounds." ...
Shame is an insidious sensation of feeling flawed and inadequate. Shame based beliefs constantly whisper in our ears “you are not enough, therefore, you are unworthy of love and connection.” Toxic shame can negatively impact many aspects of our lives, including our...
While having a newborn baby can be an incredibly rewarding and fulfilling experience, it also can pose challenges for both parents, specifically the one who gave birth! Adjusting to life postpartum can feel quite vulnerable, lonely, and overwhelming. At least 1 in 5...
We are all born with an innate psychological need and desire for forming attachments and enduring bonds with our primary caregivers. When we are children, quite literally, our survival and healthy development depend upon it. Our attachment style develops during early...
Sexual trauma is a horrendous experience that may debilitate a person’s sense of safety and trust in themselves, in their body, in their relationships, and their sexuality. Sexual trauma is any event in which a person experiences non-consensual sexual contact or...
Lack of emotional support in a relationship can leave you feeling lonely, rejected, dismissed, and at times invisible. Dealing with emotionally unavailable romantic partnerships can feel like a never ending battle to win your partner’s affection which can leave you...
While the holidays may be a time of love, joy and celebration for some, that is certainly not the full story for many folks. Holidays are often portrayed through social media and movies as “the happiest time of the year” where everyone is joyous and seems to be having...