Select Page

Are Men Using Sex Toys? Yes, and Here’s Why


Men using sex toys is more common than you think.

What comes to your mind when you hear about men using sex toys?

Did you picture a not-so-discreet fleshlight hidden in the closet to avoid a shameful discovery? If that’s the case, you may still think that the idea of men using sex toys is a taboo topic. But it doesn’t have to be.

There’s a widely known variety of women’s sex toys, but there are lots of options available for men that just aren’t talked about. Keep reading our page to learn if men are using sex toys, why men should use sex toys, and the different types of sex toy options for people with penises.

Are Men Using Sex Toys?

Yes, men are using sex toys. While many men are ashamed of the idea of using sex toys, about 45% of adult men use them either alone or with a partner. This statistic may seem shocking to you, but in reality, it should be higher; men using sex toys should be encouraged.

Benefits of Men Using Sex Toys

Aside from being fun and feeling good, sex toys actually have a lot of benefits for you and your partner! So before you knock the idea, take a look at how a male sex toy can improve your life and your relationship.

Improve Physical Health

Masturbation is good for your health, and sex toys can only make masturbation better. While there’s nothing wrong with using your hand, it can get boring. Sex toys will make masturbating more pleasurable and give you better orgasms, which can actually improve your physical health.

One of the most significant benefits of masturbating that people don’t know about is that it can decrease your risk for prostate cancer. Masturbating can also boost your immune system, improve your mental health, and improve your cardiovascular health.

Improve Sexual Health

Masturbating with sex toys can also improve your sexual health too. Sex toys can help you explore what feels good on your body and build your confidence before trying anything with a partner that you might not be ready for.

Male sex toys are also used for people who want to improve their sexual performance. For people that struggle with staying aroused or premature ejaculation, there are certain toys for men that can keep an erection hard or even delay ejaculation.

Fun for Couples

Sex toys can spice up the bedroom for anyone because they bring even more pleasure to both parties, in various sex positions, during intercourse.

Using toys with a partner can be especially intimate if you’re exploring new ways to experience pleasure. Le Wand is a company that has lots of sex toys for couples to use together.

Go the Distance

Sex toys are an exciting way for couples to intimately connect when they’re in a long-distance relationship. While you can use any sex toys during phone sex, there are even high-tech toys called teledildonics that you can control at any distance.

Types of Sex Toys

There’s quite a variety of male sex toys available, but most people aren’t familiar with any except for the fleshlight. While the fleshlight is very popular, it just serves the purpose of jerking off.

Other sex toys can bring you pleasure in different ways and can be used during intercourse to help your partner feel good, too.

Masturbation Sleeve

A masturbation sleeve is any toy that imitates a vagina, mouth, or anus for you to put your penis into. Fleshlights, pocket pussies, and strokers are all examples of male masturbator sleeves. Masturbation sleeves are designed for solo play, but they’re certainly more pleasurable than your hand.

Cock Ring

A cock ring is a ring is a hands free accessory that usually goes around the base of a penis and restricts the blood flow to delay ejaculation. Cock rings are also known for making erections ever bigger and increasing the sensations felt.

People who have erectile dysfunction will often use cock rings to be able to perform normally during intercourse.

Some cock rings vibrate, and these are fun for both solo and partner play. If you have a female partner, vibrating cock rings can stimulate your partner’s clitoris during intercourse. They can also work as vibrators even if they’re not wrapped around a penis.

Butt Plug

Butt plugs are anal sex toys that can be used by anyone to plug the anus. Butt plugs come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes based on preference, and some even vibrate for extra pleasure. These toys stay in place during penetrative sex and put pressure near the g-spot for both men and women.

Prostate Stimulator

A prostate stimulator or prostate massager is a wand that is designed to reach and stimulate the prostate gland. Some massagers vibrate and pulsate as well. A prostate massage can not only give you mind-blowing orgasms but can also provide numerous health benefits.

Prostate stimulators might be intimidating for those with penises who haven’t tried butt play. However, with an open mind, men using sex toys can dramatically improve their sex life with these toys, otherwise, sex toy companies wouldn’t be selling so many of them.

Penis Extender

A penis extender, or penis sleeve, is basically just a cover over the penis that will increase its length and girth, almost like a wearable dildo.

These toys can be used to give your partner a more pleasurable experience as well as help you last longer during intercourse. Some penis sleeves have added textures or can vibrate for more fun.


As we mentioned above, teledildonics are sex toys that work when used at a distance. These include vibrators and fleshlights that can be connected through the internet and controlled by your partner no matter how far away they are.

These can be perfect for long-distance relationships, as well as partners who enjoy the risk of using discreet toys in public.

For Men Using Sex Toys, or Who Want To

Hopefully, this article helped you realize why there are men using sex toys and that there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Maybe we even convinced you to try using one, after all, there are so many options no matter your sexuality or experience.

If you’re using sex toys to try to help resolve sexual dysfunction between you and your partner, that’s a great way to start and we hope it works for you. However, if you’re still struggling, schedule a consultation with us to see if any of our services can help your sex life go back to normal.

Modern Intimacy is a group therapy practice, founded by renowned Psychologist and Sex Therapist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. This inclusive blog is designed to provide a wealth of information and resources for mental health, relationships, and sexuality. Subscribe today to get the latest information from our expert contributors from all around the world.


Author Bio

Dr. Kate Balestrieri is a Licensed Psychologist (CA, FL, IL + NY), Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and PACT III trained Couples Therapist. She is the Founder of Modern Intimacy. Follow her on TikTok and IG @drkatebalestrieri and the Modern Intimacy team on IG @themodernintimacy.



Subscribe to our Newsletter

You’ll get weekly sex and relationship tips, news, updates, podcast rundowns, and more!
You’ll also receive our 82-page e-book + journal for FREE!

You May Also Like…


  1. Sex Hater

    52 years sex health what’s that..what’s sex … I see 9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999 billion little square screens with visuals of peope doing stuff then I take my hand and well lot of things come to mind …

  2. Zhana wells

    Interesting topic. Perhaps most men do not like to talk about their sex toys? In my opinion, you have chosen an excellent topic. Thanks for writing an interesting post for adults.

  3. Steven Lewis

    Excellent topic. very nice information for male adult toys. thanks for writing an article adult toys .

  4. Dean

    is it dirty for my husband to try different sex toys inside his bum and leaving it inside him while we are having sex with his wife


Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *